Back to the Grind

It was another not-long-enough weekend. I'm going to tell you what I did, my plans, and then I have a TMI bit about erectile dysfunction. You have been warned and you may want to just stop reading right here. If you want to go a little further, I'll warn you before I get to the TMI part.

I took the dogs to the fish pond.

And actually got a few pictures.

Look, you can tell it's dogs and not blobs splashing.

This is Halona thinking she can pull a tree root from the bank- while it is still attached to the tree.

I was hoping if the dogs wore themselves out at the pond, they wouldn't run off. What really happened is they got muddy, I got a sunburn, and every time I let them out, Sophie takes off. I am now having to lead her everywhere on a leash. I usually get dragged around rapidly.

I am still not finished with the star. I have one corner left and I ran out of floss. I just got tired to dealing with it, so I put it down until my mind is clear. Lately I have been feeling really frazzled and on edge.

I decided to make a wish board to help me reach my goals. One of my goals is to be in an honest relationship. Venus rules relationships and my Venus is in Pisces, the sign of secrets. I'm trying to shift that energy to intuitive. Here's one picture I'm going to use on my board:

I cleaned my house. I mean, mopped, dusted, swept, and moved furniture. I have rearranged the living room. I know it hasn't been that long since I moved the bookcases, but it had to be done. And, yes, I put the books back were they were before, and, YES, I know that doesn't make a whole lot of sense. I just needed to get the energy moving and nothing moves chi like major housecleaning.

Astrology has been on my mind a good bit and I have a quilt idea stewing on the back burner of my brain. I don't know if I'll actually make it because I planned to do my Year of the Dragon Quilt during vacation. Working on two at the same time is probably not a good idea, especially since I feel frazzled. On the other hand, the most beautiful quilt I ever made came out of one of the most stressful times of my life. During my last semester of college, I started a whole-cloth quilt for my aunt. DO NOT EVER START A MAJOR PROJECT DURING YOUR LAST SEMESTER. You think can breeze through because you've done a billion other semesters. Wrong. The last one is always hell. THEN my father had a heart attack and an emergency triple bypass. The quilt was intended for my aunt's birthday in October and I believe I got it mailed out in March. Every day, I'd deal with ten thousand little problems then finally sit down to do a whopping four stitches before something else cropped up. All my sorrow, worry, and stress poured into that quilt and the result was so beautiful I couldn't believe it was my work. I have never made anything else like it. And I can't believe I never took any pictures.

Here we are at the TMI part. Don't say I didn't warn you.

My man has erectile dysfunction due to some medication he is taking. He can't just go off the meds, and his doctor doesn't like being told what to do. If Mr. Dragon says, I have a problem with X so maybe we could try Y, the doctor will tell him that's bullshit. I think the doctor is a quack. He gave Mr. Dragon an Rx for Viagra. The problem is one pill so I don't see how another pill cures anything as long as he's still on the other medication. I don't like taking pills. I think Mr. Dragon takes too many.

The reason why I am writing about this is it occurs to me I am not the only woman who is dealing with it, yet I have NEVER seen anything about advice for women. I only see ads for those magic little blue pills, which btw, may or may not work. They don't mention that in the advertisement.

So here's my advice:

1. Shut up. Your man knows there is a problem. He knows you are upset. He is upset. There is nothing you can say to make him feel better. He is sure you do not understand and you probably don't if you lack a penis. He doesn't want advice, he wants the problem to go away.

2. You have a better chance when all his other needs are met. If he's hungry, too hot, or worried about something forget it. The best time is after he's ate, rested, and relaxed.

3. Privacy is essential. Sex is more likely to happen at my house because I live alone in the country. His brother lives with him. No one is going to walk in on us at my house. If you need to be alone go out of town for a weekend.

4. Let him do the instigating. If you start making demands he'll start to worry about what he'll be able to do.

5. Take what you can get. There is nothing wrong with his fingers or tongue.

6. Give him some feedback. Men like noise. The more you moan the more they think they are doing something. Don't do a big fake production. Just let him know you're enjoying yourself.

7. It's NOT his fault. So don't stop loving him.

8. If something worked before, repeat. It's the power of positive association. He'll remember, he'll get happy, and then voila!