As part of my life-without-Kurt routine, I just finished re-arranging my bedroom. I like it. Now I will be sleeping with my head in the east which usually means good dreams. It's tricky moving my bedroom furniture around because 1.) I've got an awkward shaped room, and 2.) I've got antiques which don't go just any old way. As you can see in the picture, my headboard is taller than I am (the bed is really high) so there are only two walls the bed can go against without blocking windows. And actually it is partially blocking a window here but it's not completely blocking it and I could have slid the bed down a bit but I wanted plenty of space in front of the dresser to open drawers. The dresser is also a bit of a window blocker given the huge mirror. There is my problem- the dresser mirror now reflects the bed.
I am very careful with mirrors in my home. Mirrors can be used for all sorts of magick. I ritually sealed every mirror I own whether I intended to use it as a magickal tool or not. I don't let mirrors reflect other mirrors. I have always heard a mirror should never face a bed because a married couple will be disturbed by a symbolic third party in the bedroom. Single people can be startled if they awaken in the night and see their own reflection as they may not be aware they are seeing themselves. They may think a stranger is in the house.
When I was dating M, he had a mirrored headboard. We had lots and lots of sex on his bed and never once thought anything about it. Then he moved his dresser and because the mirror was not attached well, the screws pulled loose. Rather than reattaching the mirror, M propped it against the wall- by his bed. One night we were making love and I saw our reflection. For a moment I didn't recognize us. We were erotic and beautiful. I finally understood why cheap hotels put mirrors on the ceiling. We were so beautiful and I could not stop staring. M noticed I was distracted and when he looked into the mirror he was as enthralled as me. We left the mirror right where it was for months.
Of course, back then I was 20. Now if I look into a mirror while having sex I am prone to see cellulite. I doubt my 36 year-old body is as erotic as my 20 year-old body used to be. And, being that I like my men older than me, I probably won't be looking at sexy, young, tanned, strong shoulders and biceps.
But, I don't have a man right now. So the only problem would be me seeing myself when I am half asleep. I was laying on the bed earlier, and all I could see was my bent knee. There may not be a problem at all until I actually get a man (whenever that will be) and then I'll probably just see him (not young) unless I'm on top (bleh, cellulite). Unless my future mate is a kinky freak. Then I may see far too much. Or, I don't know, given candle light and strong desire, we might look like porn stars.
So what do you say? Is the mirror a problem or not? I really want to know if anyone set up a mirror for erotic purposes and then their relationship failed. Or did you fall more deeply in love because you saw a beautiful human being? Sacred shitless because you saw a person sitting up in your bed? Any supernatural occurrences? Nothing to it, just enjoy the view? Or was it a bad angle of an ugly butt? I'm dying of curiosity here. Men and women, I want to hear your story, good or bad.
2 comments:
Learning to go about our lives single after being part of a duo always has so many challenges. My first husband and I had a mirror in our headboard. I didn't like it, but he did. We didn't break up because of the mirror and we didn't have any supernatural occurrences with it. Mirrors have always made me vaguely uneasy, though. There are times when I go through and cover them all. Yep, I'm weird. After my divorce I had a wild, mad affair with a delicious body builder/karate instructor. We had lots of acrobatic carnal relations in front of his mirror and I loved watching him in the mirror. My husband and I sometimes videotape ourselves and watch it together, and we enjoy it. He is 35 years my senior, so his physique obviously differs from that of my handsome body builder, and I am 32 now and 20lbs heavier, so I am different too. Still, I enjoy seeing us together. The physical union of our emotional connection. Mushy I reckon, and too long an answer, but there ya go. We sleep in separate rooms because he likes the tv on at night, but I don't have a mirror by my bed.
Thanks, very helpful! I don't think my relationship with M ended b/c of the mirror. Some mirrors feel 'empty' sort like an unsprung trap. My aunt used to have one at the end of a long, dark hallway and it was creepy. My Granny used to cover mirrors, she didn't like them at all. When she died she only had one mirror in the bathroom.
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